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Donald Jacob Uitvlugt's avatar

Thank you.

Such a moving tribute, and an inspiration for other fathers trying to do their best with the hands they were dealt…

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Karl Gallagher's avatar

May his memory be a blessing.

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Jim McCoy's avatar

I'm sorry brother. I know what it is to lose a father.

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R. H. Snow's avatar

Declan, you are his Legacy of Love. Thank you for loving him, for being that Light... I am so sorry it hurts, but I am so glad you are here, to give us a glimpse of who he was...

a Portrait of a Father, loved by his Son.💖

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Kevin Menard's avatar

Lovely post. I'll never do one about mine, but there are similarities. Differences, of course. I just hope I am a good a father to mine.

May his memory be eternal and may the Light Perpetual shine on him.

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JDM85's avatar

A beautiful piece. The kind I hope one of my kids may write about me one day.

...a security guard I worked with on a site decades ago said something I've never forgotten. After we had to roust thr third or fourth batch of homeless folks on the night shift, he saw I felt bad for them.

"John," he said [I was in my early 20s then], "every one of us is given a hand to play. These folks? They've folded. You give and get respect based on *how* you play the hand that's dealt you, *not* necessarily what you play at the end of the game."

....sounds like your dad was given a seriously crappy hand, but played it well. He was married, stayed married, had & kept a noble career, and raised kids who have become functioning, productive adults in life who've also gotten married, stayed married, had & kept noble careers....

Kudos to your dad! He played his hand well. Gives guys like me hope.

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The Brothers Krynn's avatar

Moving, I'm sorry for your loss, my own father passed away 17years ago and the pain still aches and I still remember and miss him.

Your father sounds like he suffered a lot and deserved better than what he got, but sounds like he made the most of it. Good on him.

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